Steps to Help Protect Yourself from Stalkers
Thankfully, not many people can say they’ve been stalked. But if you ever have been, then you know what a terrible feeling it is to have someone spying on you and trying to keep tabs on everything you say and do for ulterior or malicious reasons. Though this behavior sounds a lot like Facebook itself, it could be many people. Some people feel that even after you have no contact with them, that they should be allowed to meddle in, control, or track your life. This could be a former boyfriend or girlfriend, an x spouse’s new wife or husband, an old friend who you no longer talk to, a relative, a disgruntled employee, or former employer, or just some random person you met once and didn’t say hi to or someone you worked with who is obsessed with you.
With all of our information online, we also have a sense of false intimacy. People think they know one another or have an enticed relationship with someone they follow, when in fact they do not. Following someone or being friends with them on Facebook doesn’t necessarily make you real friends. It takes more than that to form a relationship. Relationships are developed over time with more than posts and comments.
Sadly, there are a lot of people out there with stalker behaviors. They troll your social media accounts, either by making up a fake accounts or by having friends or family members follow you. They then heckle or make comments in your posts that are rude or alarming. They also friend your friends to get to know them and then spread lies about you. They may try to find out where you work and attempt to sabotage your job by calling and making fake complaints. They may do other malicious things like make up false rumors about you to friends and neighbors. These are all things that have actually happened to people online. Women are much more vulnerable to this behavior than men; however, it does happen to men also. Stalkers can be male or female, but the person being stalked is often female. Don’t engage your stalker. Go to the police if you have to and file a restraining order. This will make it a crime for that person to come within a specific number of yards of you. You can also get a “no contact” restraining order which will keep that person from every calling, texting or contacting you on social media. People who stalk others are mentally ill. They have an obsessive disorder that keeps them from distinguishing fact from fiction. While you can have empathy, you should keep in mind that stalkers can be very dangerous. They can get physically violent, break your property, and create emotional mayhem in your life over what ever imagined problem they have with you.
Some things you can do to avoid stalkers is to be wary of new followers or friends. Set your accounts to private if you can and vet each new request carefully. Get ahead of your stalker by telling people you have one. Say outright “My x is a stalker and makes up lies about me, so if he/she does, please ignore it.” People understand this immediately because it is now happening so often that it’s become a regular problem; it’s not just for movie stars anymore! Lastly, you can seek out a good internet data search company. A company like Wiperts can reduce or completely diminish any private information out there on the internet. This will in turn reduce the amount of information that a stalker is able to find and use about you. You will essentially become invisible online which will give you great piece of mind.